Let's End It Now: Disrespect!

We all know what disrespect means right? Just in case we need a refresher, let's see how Google defines it; "Lack of respect or courtesy." Now that we remember what disrespect means, let's get started on tonight's blog post.

Have you ever been treated with disrespect to the point where you wanted to grab a knife, and cut their tongue off right then and there? (I'm not psycho, I promise). Of course we have! It was either our fathers, mothers, siblings, boyfriend or girlfriends who just ticked us off! They're either calling you names, or even treating you like a child. Trust me, I've been there, and I am glad it's OVERRRRRR. (For right now anyway)

Based on my past experiences, I will help you slam the brakes of allowing others to disrespect you in a relationship sense & a family and friends sense.

In a relationship sense: Say for instance your lover has been calling you a name you extremely dislike! (Ex: Fatty). At first, you laughed it off, but after awhile it started to bug you because it became a daily act of behavior. However, you didn't express to them your feelings because you just didn't feel like arguing. (Now you are in the "tolerating" stage). Days, and now weeks have gone by, and they continued to call you that absurd name. BAM! A trigger goes off and you went ballistic on them.

*Here's an Example*

You: Yo, what's your freaking problem?? You pissing me off man! You've been calling me fatty this fatty that, and I'm tired of your crap! Since I'm fat why don't you leave me huh? You ain't slim yourself calling me out my name! (If you haven't noticed, I don't curse).

Them: *looks confused/hurt* Where is all of this coming from? You never told me from the beginning that calling you a "fatty" was an issue. It was a joke, first of all, but if you didn't want me calling you that you should have said so.

PAUSE. You see what happened there? Your lover had no idea you felt disrespected about a "name" these past few weeks. Why? Because YOU didn't want to mention your annoyance from the beginning. (I know you're saying: well if they're truly my lover, they should have been spotted my annoyance a loonnggg time ago). Well, don't assume! Don't expect someone to guess how you are feeling in the inside. You are not a baby! Since we want to be grown soooo bad, let's act like it. SPEAK UP! YOU also didn't want to argue, but hey, it happened anyway! What we fail to realize is that if there's a problem (feelings of disrespect), let your lover know right then and there! Solve the problem ASAP before it prolongs, and causes a mass destruction in your relationship.

The same with friends and family. If they are treating you like a child, or also calling you out of your name, let them know in a peaceful manner how you feel from the beginning. Don't allow this dilemma to continue over time. It builds up, and you're the one who's hurting at the end of the day.

Kill the bug as soon as you spot it! It saves YOU in the end.

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